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Girl, 11, assaulted by 20 males.
Ok, Originally found this at Seren's journal and initially it triggers the 'OMFG, THOSE MONSTERS!' reaction. Then you realize that most of the 20 were in fact children themselves. Question: What are they learning at home that they even think for a moment that this is "fun"? I am a parent of a six-year-old girl and live in a large metropolitan area. This generation and I believe I can safely say the next one that includes my child (and THAT, my friends is what frightens me more) is just going to to get worse just from viewing the way fellow parents are raising their children.
There is NO parental responsibility or discipline in the home anymore. More and more I see parents blaming their child's problems on everyone and everything other than themselves or their child. Parents are not parents, they try to be friends and companions first and that is WRONG. A child must have limits and to get along in society and it is an injustice to the child to do otherwise.
I believe this problem started probably along the time when we began worrying about hurting our children's "feelings" by punishing them. (yes, I have heard a parent say such a thing) That it will crush their fragile self-esteem NOT to have everything they make grabby hands at or to be told no. They give their child everything it asks for and then wonder why he rapes someone when she tells him no.
Let me make one thing clear...children are not innocent little angels to be spoiled and are not "blank slates". I don't care what the psychologist says. My child came into the world with a definite personality that I had to learn to react to accordingly. And a child will try to get away with what they can and test their limits and you. Chloe tries to manipulate me on a DAILY basis and she is a good kid. And if you don't show them who is in charge of your home and who is the parent first, your is a house full of anarchy, which translates my friends into a society of anarchy.
We have reaped what we have sowed. Its going to take a lot of work fix it, mostly starting with the next generation....
This is my public service announcement I guess. I just had to get it off my chest. *feels chest* Aahh, better!
Ok, Originally found this at Seren's journal and initially it triggers the 'OMFG, THOSE MONSTERS!' reaction. Then you realize that most of the 20 were in fact children themselves. Question: What are they learning at home that they even think for a moment that this is "fun"? I am a parent of a six-year-old girl and live in a large metropolitan area. This generation and I believe I can safely say the next one that includes my child (and THAT, my friends is what frightens me more) is just going to to get worse just from viewing the way fellow parents are raising their children.
There is NO parental responsibility or discipline in the home anymore. More and more I see parents blaming their child's problems on everyone and everything other than themselves or their child. Parents are not parents, they try to be friends and companions first and that is WRONG. A child must have limits and to get along in society and it is an injustice to the child to do otherwise.
I believe this problem started probably along the time when we began worrying about hurting our children's "feelings" by punishing them. (yes, I have heard a parent say such a thing) That it will crush their fragile self-esteem NOT to have everything they make grabby hands at or to be told no. They give their child everything it asks for and then wonder why he rapes someone when she tells him no.
Let me make one thing clear...children are not innocent little angels to be spoiled and are not "blank slates". I don't care what the psychologist says. My child came into the world with a definite personality that I had to learn to react to accordingly. And a child will try to get away with what they can and test their limits and you. Chloe tries to manipulate me on a DAILY basis and she is a good kid. And if you don't show them who is in charge of your home and who is the parent first, your is a house full of anarchy, which translates my friends into a society of anarchy.
We have reaped what we have sowed. Its going to take a lot of work fix it, mostly starting with the next generation....
This is my public service announcement I guess. I just had to get it off my chest. *feels chest* Aahh, better!
