Okay, some explanations about why Manda is so stressed...

[abandonreality]

Whoooo, well finally had time to sit down and make this post.  I've been evasive, stressed and emo'y with out a whole lot of reason, so it seems lately.  Well, maybe tomorrow I'll get some of it resolved.  Some of it was school, yes, and the second part of my Literature test WILL be over tomorrow... and that will be a great relief, along with the math, speeches and whatnot...

But that's not what is mainly stressing me.  Some of it is this constant sickness my daughter and I keep getting.  She brings it from school and then I think I bring it.. but that by itself isn't that bad.  What is making mommy stressed is the development of the bullies at my daughter's school.

Yeah, 1st grade bullies.  My daughter, you see, is not a very large person.  She is perhaps the second smallest in her class and a good student.  Gentle with other kids and generally wants to be liked (i.e. -- not at all like her mother..), and she has been made one of the targets of the female bully in her class.  This particular girl is twice her size and has, I have just found out lately, been kicking her in the stomach at recess, without much punishment.  This same little girl was suspended last year IN KINDERGARTEN for punching a little boy in the face.  So, mommy goes up to the principal's office tomorrow for a 'discussion'.  You see, mommy and daddy told Chloe that if Bully-girl hit or kicked her again, to hit or kick her back.  That it was okay for her to defend herself, even though her TEACHERS TELL HER NOT TO.  *sighs*  Anyway.. something is going to be done, whether they like my solution or not, I don't care.

Also the other point of stress is my grandfather is really very sick right now and he lives 7 hours away.  He was with me more growing up than my dad was a lot and its hard to be down here and not be able to go up there and be with them while he has surgery or tests.  Just.. stress.

Won't even go into the whole "30" thing happening next month.. *headwall*...  My brother has something planned.. I'm gonna hide the whole day that day..

Also gotta pay my loads of Uni parking tickets...heehee... *headdesk* or I won't get to register.... I gotta learn to not run late on Tues and Thurs. so I can park where I'm supposed to..

So.. HOW YOU DOIN' FLIST?  ANYONE GOT ANY VALIUM?
XD

Manda-chan~

Comments

[our-innocence.livejournal.com]

without much punishment.

WTH. Are you serious? Sorry, kicking someone in the stomach should be an automatic one-week suspension, meetings with the parents and some serious counseling for the kid. I mean, WTF.

I would have told my child (and will tell my children eventually) that if someone raises a hand to them, to strike back. That's just some bullshit.

[abandonreality.livejournal.com]

I am dead. serious. The one time Chloe tried to fight back. SHE got in trouble. I'm steamed. Going tomorrow after the Lit. Test to have a talk. The recess monitors are for crap.

This girl has been suspended both this year AND last year for violence. She has had detentions and parent meetings but is still able to come to school and do this to kids.

Last night Greg went so far as to show Chloe how to properly kick someone in the shins to make them go down..

[our-innocence.livejournal.com]

That's some serious bull. Some people need to be smacked to make them notice anything. What a crock.

[gallo-de-pelea.livejournal.com]

Ugh ugh ugh I hate that "just ignore it" bullshit teachers say. I was told to just sit and take it all through elementary school, and all it got me was more bullying. FUCK THAT SHIT - pardon my french. >:(

[gallo-de-pelea.livejournal.com]

The one time I got kicked in the stomach, fortunately the kick-er had a handy pair of testicles to yank... it's still a worthwhile trick to know, just in case.

[abandonreality.livejournal.com]

That "ignore it" stuff just isn't gonna work this time. I've told my kid to not be shy about kicking or hitting back to protect herself and if they don't like it, STFU. This girl is a good two heads taller than her and she HAS to protect herself...

Chloe is so funny though, when we told her is was okay to kick back her eyes were: O_O!! and she said: "but..mother.." like she was scandalized. But Greg finally sat her down and explained that she could really get hurt and she had to protect herself.. >/

[(Anonymous)]

So I was looking through Division 15's f-list posts to see if anyone was talking about Bleach 270 and I saw your post and this huge rush of nostalgia swept over me.

I was always the second smallest kid in the class and a good student and similar things happened to me (not completely, considering I had no qualms about trying to beat the shit out of anyone who tried to beat the shit out of me). Of course, fights didn't start until I was a bit older (the first one that I remember I was 8) than your daughter but they were certainly a pain in the ass to deal with. Also, I don't remember my parents ever getting involved but then again my fights usually occured out of school at first. Plus I was a li'l wiseass who would be "Okay, I'm bleeding, whatever." (I think it's because I'm a city kid.)

My parents finally decided that they couldn't let me keep getting into fights when I was about 12. When you're a little kid, it doesn't matter much who you're fighting because you're all kids and girls are usually bigger than boys their age. But then the guys were starting to have growth spurts and my parents must have thought that me, being this tiny girl, wouldn't put up a good fight. So my dad asked me why I got into the fight and I told him about how the boy hit me first. So my dad told me that next time I should punch the kid in the face.

Oh, childhood. -_-

[abandonreality.livejournal.com]

I agree with the childhood sentiment. The public school system nowadays is very touchy with what they can or can't do to punish children themselves. They goosestep around the problem until it becomes almost an epidemic, like it has now with this bully. She has almost free reign on the playground now, with little threat other than detention and suspension and she's not scared of that.

So off I go to the principal..

[3-jane.livejournal.com]

That is so ridiculous, but ... you know, thinking back to grade school/high school, yeah. That sounds about right. *fumes* The only advice I can offer is to be a squeaky wheel --- if the principal doesn't do anything (which, it might be worth pointing out that if this little horror was an adult, she'd be up for assault and battery, and that your child has the right to an education without fear of injury), go further up the food chain. Start calling school board members; call administration for your school district. Eventually, there'll be enough pressure that they'll do something.

[laurabryannan.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry this is happening to your little girl.

Threaten to talk to the local newspaper about it. That might get the principal's attention!